In today’s world, feminine traits don’t always get the love they deserve. We’re constantly encouraged to stay logical, stick to rigid structures, power through, and compete with everyone around us. And look, it’s not that there’s anything wrong with these qualities (they have their place), but they’re inherently masculine.
Traits that represent femininity like softness, receptivity, and emotional presence are often overlooked or misunderstood—it’s just the truth. Therefore, this makes it super hard to connect with your innate feminine energy.
Although it can be hard, tapping into your feminine power can bring a deep sense of positivity, peace, and success into your life. As women, this energy is our natural state. That’s why it’s no surprise that when we start embracing these traits, we thrive. We feel more connected, empowered, and completely capable of creating the life we really want.
You may have even heard Lauryn say that in business she’s masculine, but at home she’s fully in her feminine energy. She’s a wife, a mother, a homemaker and loves every second of it.
To help you activate your true self, we’re sharing a guide to owning your feminine energy in the modern world.
How To Be In Your Feminine Energy for the Modern Woman
Before you can truly welcome your feminine spirit into your life, it’s important to understand a few key concepts. What’s the difference between feminine and masculine energy anyways?
Why does femininity even really matter? How is reconnecting with your true essence so empowering? Good news: we’re here to answer all of that today. And, if you’re already in tune with your feminine energy, this post is here to help you deepen that connection and continue stepping into your most radiant, powerful self.
What Is Feminine Energy?
Feminine energy (sometimes called divine feminine energy) is the core of who we are as women. Where masculine energy is all about doing more, taking more, and achieving more, feminine energy is about being, feeling, creating, and receiving. It’s still powerful, but it’s a soft power. It’s effective but doesn’t push—it transforms.
What Are Feminine Energy Traits?
Content
Receptive
Intuitive
Expressive
Empathetic
Sensual
Creative
Nurturing
Supportive
Gentle
Patient
Compassionate
Forgiving
Relational
Sociocentric
Cooperative
Flexible
Magnetic
Graceful
How To Tap Into Your Feminine Energy
Practice presence and gratitude.
To embrace your feminine energy, it’s so important to be open to life, grounded in the now, and deeply rooted in what’s happening around you. Awareness is everything. One powerful way to tap into your feminine energy and boost your mental health is practicing gratitude and presence. Try saying gratitude affirmations, meditating, doing yoga, connecting with nature, and having a mindful, slow morning routine.
Accept support, rest, and pleasure.
As women, it can be hard to see our need for rest, support, and pleasure as important. When we get SO wrapped up in what we can achieve, we can totally burn out and lose our sense of self. And, as many of you know, we put a LOT of energy back into our kids and partners. While that’s important, it’s easy to slip into “mom mode” or “wife mode” and disconnect from our own needs.
But feminine energy thrives in slowing down and allowing ourselves to be held and nourished. Give yourself permission to receive, not just give. This allows you to reconnect with your inner radiance, refill your cup, and show as your full, authentic self.
Speak and create freely and without pressure.
Feminine energy is super expressive. It doesn’t want to be boxed in. Your heart wants to create without expectations of profit, judgment, or victory. And creating doesn’t necessarily mean things like painting or writing. It could be gardening, decorating, cooking, or even curating your OOTD. Whatever it is, let it be messy and imperfect, and accept its beauty to establish authenticity and self-trust.
Here’s more on the calming power of creative hobbies for self-care. And, if you’re not sure how to be creative, just experiment with all sorts of different things—even that experience can feel good and awaken your femininity.
Offer loving care to those around you.
When you think of classic feminine traits, one of the first things to come to mind is a nurturing spirit. We’re natural mothers, friends, lovers, mentors, and caregivers. Women naturally make people feel safe, which allows us to step into our soft power that heals and uplifts. So, embrace this role by serving those you love and holding space for those who need it.
Make time for quality, emotionally-rich conversations.
Women love connection. There’s nothing shallow or surface-level about our chats—we love deep, emotional convos that nourish the soul. To open yourself to your feminine energy, find opportunities to have vulnerable conversations that allow you to be fully expressive and authentic. You can also tap into your feminine need for emotionally rich chats by listening to conversation podcasts. The HIM & HER Show, Khloé in Wonder Land, and Conversations with Cam are a great place to start.
Connect with your body and senses.
Our feminine energy require us to connect with our inner sensuality. We can do that best by engaging our five senses on a daily basis. Here’s how you can experience each one for feminine power:
Touch: Get a body contouring massage, ice roll your face, practice dry bushing, and even try hot and cold therapy.
Taste: Practice mindful eating, savor different flavors, and find nourishing ways to enjoy your favorite foods.
Smell: Use essential oils, burn non-toxic candles, use potpourri, and fill your home with fresh flowers.
Sound: Listen to your favorite music and seek out the sounds of nature.
Sight: Surround yourself with things you find beautiful, create an atmosphere with home lighting, and utilize your favorite colors and patterns.
Pamper yourself and nurture self-love.
Feminine energy isn’t just about caring and loving others but loving yourself too. Pamper yourself with daily self-care, whether that’s a luxurious bath, daily skincare rituals, dreamy vacations, cozy nights in, or something else that makes you feel amazing. The whole point is to send a message to yourself that you’re deserving of love. We know that loving yourself can be hard, but once you master it, you’ll discover that feminine power.
Honor your inner sovereignty.
Feminine energy shines brightest when you fully own your independence and take charge of your own life. Honoring your inner sovereignty means stepping fully into your personal power. It’s about making decisions that reflect your values, standing firm in your boundaries, and trusting your inner voice above all else. Remember, intuition is one of your greatest strengths.
Femininity is about embracing your journey with confidence and self-respect, knowing that your strength comes from owning who you are. This includes the independent, authentic, and unapologetic version of yourself, too. If you want to master this, we recommend the book A Woman’s Guide to Power—it’ll change your whole perspective!
Does Feminine Energy Attract Masculine Energy?
YES! Men and women are like yin and yang. We’re fundamentally different, but these differences are totally complementary. So, when we embody our feminine energy, we create a magnetic pull that invites the response of men living in their own authentic power.
Embody your feminine energy and start living your best life.
When you honor your feminine energy, it’s like manifesting joy, connection, and success effortlessly into your life. So, take these practices as loving invitations to slow down, show up as your true self, and celebrate the incredible woman you already are (and who you’re about to become). Increasing your feminine energy is your greatest strength—own it, nurture it, and let it transform your life.
x, The Skinny Confidential Team
+ Need more self-love? Listen to The HIM & HER Show with Christal Fuentes.
++ Learn about human design charts to truly get to know yourself.
